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Shirley-Moana Duff's avatar

There are pieces of this I really resonate with especially around slowness - but some of the delivery lands differently for me.

Not every woman wants her body marked or to be called a “little slut” - for some of us, that language feels more violating than seductive. It pulls us out of the moment, not deeper into it. There’s a big difference between surrender and submission and an even bigger one between desire and domination.

Asking “Is this too much?” while pulling someone’s hair is not consent. Consent is not something you ask for while doing the thing, it’s proactive, not retrospective.

For me, seduction isn’t about power, it’s about presence. It’s about a man whose desire comes from a steady, grounded kind of confidence, the kind that’s felt in the way he looks at me, not to claim me, but to crave me. A gaze that lingers long enough to let me know I’m wanted, a presence that builds anticipation not pressure.

It’s the way he listens when he asks what I want, because he genuinely wants to know. The way he builds tension, not for control, not for his ego, but to co-create longing. He creates space for both of us to choose the moment fully, not as conqueror and conquered, but as collaborators in something electric, intimate, and ours as co-creators of something unforgettable.

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Ally Potrebka's avatar

As a woman I can confirm that all of this is true. I think women can learn from it as well. Let’s all become more seductive, more patient. Let’s bring back the art of romance, rather than the to do list.

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